Last longer – but how? We've got you covered!
One, two, three – it's over! Does sex often end faster than you or your partner would like? Don't worry, there's a lot you can do to last longer and enjoy sex more. We've put together some tips to help you!
Whether it's premature ejaculation, an unintentionally quickie, or loss of erection – when your penis isn't cooperating, it can be frustrating. But why does this happen? There are several reasons why some of us finish a little faster than we'd like during lovemaking. Stress is a major factor – the worry of not being good enough puts us under pressure. But inexperience sometimes plays a role too: you might be thinking about how to do it right just as quickly, and sex is over before it's even really begun. In some cases, however, there are also physical reasons behind it.
Lasting longer during sex: How does it work? Step one: Relaxation is key! That's easier said than done, so you should first talk about your worries. Talk openly with your partner about it: "I know I always come quickly during sex. Does it bother you? What can we do?" Communication helps you take the pressure off. During lovemaking, you can then use relaxation techniques – deep breathing and slow movements help you enjoy sex more consciously and recognize the moment when orgasm is approaching. A positive side effect: Slow sex also brings you closer together as a couple.
Use special condoms and lubricants.
There are special condoms and lubricants that can reduce the sensitivity of the penis. These products often contain a small amount of a numbing agent such as benzocaine or lidocaine, which can slightly numb the nerve endings without completely blocking sensation. A more natural option is condoms with a firm base or a penis ring. The slight blood flow restriction at the base of the shaft can help you last longer and also improve your stamina.
Try the edging method
Edging is a specific technique for lasting longer. It involves consciously controlling sexual stimulation by stopping just before climax and allowing arousal to subside. This process is repeated several times before finally reaching orgasm. Through this training, the body learns to better control arousal. This can help delay ejaculation. Of course, it requires some practice and patience, but for many, this method can lead to improved control over their sexual arousal in the long run.
Pelvic floor exercises
What many don't know: It's not just your mind, but also the muscles in your pelvic floor that control how long you last during sex. Targeted pelvic floor exercises strengthen the muscles that help you maintain control over your bladder, bowels, and sexual function.
You can train them with various exercises. The simplest is to contract the muscles you use to stop the flow of urine for a few seconds and then relax them again. Repeat this several times in a row, gradually increasing the duration of tension. A regular "workout routine" can improve ejaculation control and increase stamina during sex over time.
Lack of erection: When should you seek professional help?
Sure, it happens occasionally that you get so aroused that you ejaculate sooner than intended. But if it happens more often and premature ejaculation is affecting your sex life or relationship, it's a good idea to talk to a professional. A doctor or sex therapist can help you identify the causes. So don't be ashamed of seeing an expert! Your well-being—which includes a fulfilling sex life—is important, and you can get help if you ask for it. The same applies if your erection diminishes even before orgasm. Erection problems can also be psychological and physical in nature—and they are often treatable.
